The magical future where starting is easy doesn't exist. Everything worth doing is hard, waiting for the time when it's easy means that we never get there, we just keep waiting.
Bad things come to those who wait.
In fact, the worst things come: a life half lived, our potential unfulfilled.
When threatened we imagine that we will either fight or flee.
Actually, most of us just freeze. We see a snake...... we freeze.
We have a massive project: We freeze, we wait, we procrastinate.
All of us resist when it’s our turn. All of us resist when we are the ones who are called on to create art or to build structures or to study or transform our bodies or get on the stage and perform.
We create drama in our personal lives
We clean the house
We watch TV
We have sex
We feel sick
We sleep in
We go to bed late
We do work other than the work we are trying to do
We talk to people on the internet
We don’t talk to people who could help us
We exercise too much
We don't exercise at all
We do anything other than the thing we are called to do. This list represents our resistance to being who we really want to be. Resistance to achieving what we want to achieve.
I know you reached out to me because at some point you wanted my help.
You wanted to achieve elite body composition
or to get superwomen levels of strength
or to grow your business and live the fitness dream
or to rock it on stage and become a champion
You wanted my help to dissolve resistance to achieving your goals.
That's what you asked for and that's what I'm going to do.
So I'm going to send you more messages from the heart and with my experience of being the number one fitness model in the world, a coach to a whole heap of super amazing athletes and a women running a successful and really demanding online business.
I'm going to try and shake you out of your resistance to doing your great work, the project you want to work on more than anything else. If you're not cool with that I understand completely, you can unsubscribe in the link at the bottom of the page.
I'm just like you, I have resistance to the things I need to work on.
Right now I'm doing a really complicated and challenging course on exercise physiology that requires heaps of reading and a fair bit of study and I find it really hard to sit down and get enough reading done.
Even though I’m really hungry to learn I resist it in so many ways.
I tell myself that maybe it’s because I’m a bad reader or it’s because I learn better at seminars. That’s the thing about resistance, it takes so many forms.
It's much easier for me to go train or to spend extra time reviewing the training programs I write for girls in The Sports Model Project or to pour over their results until midnight rather than sit down and study.
That's the other crazy thing about resistance: often the result isn't laziness, it's actually a whole heap of activity but that activity is not helping you achieve what you want to achieve.
So I realised I would be letting you down if I didn't email you more and push you to fight resistance to your great work. Most of us need more than one push.
Because a life isn’t truly lived unless we are doing the monumental, scary, challenging work that takes time and discipline and can’t get done in a flurry of activity at the last minute. The type of work that makes us freeze, the type of work that makes us wait rather than just start.
If you have been thinking about starting something for a while, you have doubts and fears and you're not current working on it, chances are you are resisting your great work.
There won’t be a better time in the future, you're not suddenly going to be richer in six months, your partner won’t suddenly decide that he wants to support you, there won’t ever be more hours in the day for you to work with.
I have girls who reach out who are
“just inquiring about coaching”
they tell me that they
“Have been thinking about competing for two years”
TWO YEARS? TWO YEARS of thinking. TWO YEARS of waiting. TWO YEARS of Resistance. Two years of life lived as a somebody else hiding from being the true radiant version of yourself, the version that you are supposed to be.
Some girls even tell me that they have been
“Thinking about competing my whole life, now I’m forty I'm scared it will never happen”
They are so right.
If you keep thinking it won’t ever happen.
The weirdest thing is they are also the girls who tell me at the end of a conversation
“I just need to think about it”
Nope, you just need to do it.
Do you know how much heartache, pain and sadness we inflict on ourselves waiting and thinking and not just starting and working.
We all know deep down the mission that we have been called on.
The only way your big mission will ever succeed is if you start right now and then commit to doing the work.
Two books have really shaped my thinking around this and I highly recommend them both to you.
The first is:
"What to Do When It's Your Turn: (and It's Always Your Turn)”
by Seth Godin
“The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles” by Steven Pressfield
Super transformational books and they both inspire me, to pursue my great work. My great work is two things.
1: Winning the WBFF world title and becoming the two-time Miss World WBFF Fitness Diva
2: Being the best coach of fitness competitors in the world.
If your great work right now is getting on stage I have created a resource that teaches you how to walk like a world champion sports model, after all when you compete 40% of your marks come from stage presence and that’s where most girls do the least practice.
My walking series is available here.
Love and Light Hattie xoxoxo
Miss World WBFF Fitness Diva
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
“Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the universe.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of creation that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
I love this quote from Marianne Williamson in
A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles
It so beautifully describes the fear that leads to resistance and stops us from being liberated the radiant shining version we are born to be.
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