Anxiety, churning doubt, telling yourself that you are not enough.

You’re not pretty enough.
You’re not smart enough
You’re not funny enough
You’re not skinny enough

Unfortunately, this is completely normal.

We are designed to avoid pain.

Pain is a signal our body sends so we know a stimulus is causing the body damage that may kill us. Because we social animals we also process emotional pain in the same way.

On top of that…

Our mind has negativity built into it.

It’s how we survived out in the wild for hundreds of thousands of years without guns or torches or even metal implements.

For most of human history, we survived by being completely hyper-aware of all the threats that existed.

The rustling of a bush, shadows, the way that the other animals were moving.

Our brains were cataloging everything around us and assuming they were a threat because when there are lions around,
it pays to over react most times
if it means you don’t get eaten
the one time the lion is there.

We don’t live in the wild anymore.

We actually live in the safest time in human history.
But we still have that mental software our bias toward negativity remains.
We want to avoid pain, including emotional pain
and we are constantly scanning for threats.

We fixate on things.

I’m not pretty enough.
I’m not smart enough
I’m not funny enough
I’m not skinny enough

Enough for what?

Well as a social animal who wants to reproduce there are two things.

If we are not "enough" we will be excluded from the group or the tribe (the cool kids) or
we will be excluded from real love and connection or even worse never gaining love and connection.

“If I were just a little skinner then maybe I could find the one to love me.”

“If I were just a little prettier maybe I would have more friends, I wouldn’t be here on my own”

The craziest thing is that we aren’t always aware of those powerful deeper fears so we assume that we hate the way we look when really we hate the deep, painful fear that we never be loved fully,
that we won’t connect on a soul level
or that we won’t be loved as a member of our tribe.

This is you in survival mode.
This is you living out your animal programming.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.
We are more than animals.

We have the beautiful gift of consciousness.
We have the blessing of being able to select our thoughts,
to change our emotions to chose our actions.

We are not slaves to our monkey mind
we are not destined to live the rest of our lives in survival mode.

We are powerful beyond knowing, we are radiant and filled with light.

We can choose another way.

That’s the way the girls in my Sports Model Project have chosen.

To walk the long path towards enlightenment,
to accept responsibility for their thoughts and emotions
and to create, actively create the emotional home they wish to live in.

It’s not easy, it’s just way easier than the other way.

Are you ready to leave survival mode behind?
Is it time for you to ascend to the next level?

Do you want to step up to the light?

I don’t accept complainers
or
people who want to wallow in sorrow.
I’m not here to fix you.

But I am here to guide you.

I am here to teach you the tools you need,
but you have to be ready to submit to my coaching
and you have to do the hard work physically and emotionally to get there.

If you're ready for that you can apply to join my program here.

Love and light
Hattie xoxo

#1 Miss World WBFF Fitness Diva

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